Ninderry May 2019
“The quality of our life is dependent on the quality of the questions we ask ourselves.”
This powerful phase was shared with me over two decades ago, through an inspiring teacher. It made an incredible impact on the way I orientate myself each day and the life path I cast myself along. It has become a self empowering reminder that I have shared with hundreds of students.
Finding the true and correct answer is the way we are wired. We will need to rebel and courageously go against the odds to find a new way. Questions are not safe. Answers are safe. We are conditioned to find answers and regurgitate information, and it may momentarily give us a deep sense of relief and security. Belief systems may also provide a dogma that could possibly allow you a heightened sense of esteem because ‘You know!”.
However I doubt whether it will bring the great depth, joy, peace and inspiration that we all yearn.
If you wish to really get to know someone I suggest you start by asking them questions – “What do you do with your time? What’s your favourite holiday?” And then, the big courageous step, when the right time comes “What is important in your life?”
If you wish to truly deepen your relationships with friends and loved ones, authentically ask how they feel.
If you are looking at enrich your own relationship with life, there is a suggestion to create time for some potent inner questions –
- What is my place in the universe?
- What is life?
- Could I have acted in a more appropriate way?
- What is the message for me?
- What is really going on? … and the biggie …
- Who am I?
and finally my fave … What am I serving?
If we refuse to ask the questions we face the cost of living on automatic pilot and solely from our conditioning, most which is imprinted onto us from culture, society, institutions, family and friends. Life is at its best is ‘just ok’.
However, by asking quality questions, the entire realm of pure potentially opens up. A great vitality comes charged with life force, energy and power.
I now see bodywork as an enriched conversation, merging attention with questioning.
The entire session is alive from one moment to the next by asking what is the body is saying to me here? And then listening and acting from this question.
“Questions … open a space within us, clearing away the preconceived debris so that something new and transformative can arise.“
Adyashanti
With love,
